Hi, this post is thought provoking for me. I’ve commented on a previous post that I recently ended a long term friendship that I had from early childhood. As close as a sister, I am now slowly realizing that this friend was a toxic narcissist. My every action, comment, or opinion was criticized and found to be lacking. For me, the hook to remain friends was the lure of “saving” this desperately inadequate person. I got hooked at age ten, I’m a grandmother now and I still can’t believe I couldn’t see what was happening. Thanks Alda for creating a safe atmosphere for this important discussion.
Thanks for taking part in that discussion Adrienne. 😊 What you describe from your end sounds a lot like codependency, have you done any work around that?
Codependency is an interesting thought. It certainly became an unhealthy relationship at some point. I’m still working through this process, lots to think about.
Ugh they are so, so hard to deal with. That crazy negative energy. I remember when I spent time with my mother, it took me a long time to recover afterwards, and that time was in direct proportion to how long I had spent with her. An hour, I might recover in ten hours. A day, I might recover in ten days.
Hi, this post is thought provoking for me. I’ve commented on a previous post that I recently ended a long term friendship that I had from early childhood. As close as a sister, I am now slowly realizing that this friend was a toxic narcissist. My every action, comment, or opinion was criticized and found to be lacking. For me, the hook to remain friends was the lure of “saving” this desperately inadequate person. I got hooked at age ten, I’m a grandmother now and I still can’t believe I couldn’t see what was happening. Thanks Alda for creating a safe atmosphere for this important discussion.
Thanks for taking part in that discussion Adrienne. 😊 What you describe from your end sounds a lot like codependency, have you done any work around that?
Codependency is an interesting thought. It certainly became an unhealthy relationship at some point. I’m still working through this process, lots to think about.
Ugh they are so, so hard to deal with. That crazy negative energy. I remember when I spent time with my mother, it took me a long time to recover afterwards, and that time was in direct proportion to how long I had spent with her. An hour, I might recover in ten hours. A day, I might recover in ten days.